When you first fell in love, you could never imagine that someday hours can go by when you are both in the same house or even the same room but not speaking to one another. It’s inevitable that once we are out of our honeymoon phase and reality sets in, we realize that all relationships take work and compromise. Every couple will find that they hit bumps in the road occasionally. However, some couples find themselves in bigger trouble, with neither party knowing exactly how to fix things.
How do you know which camp you are in?
What are the 5 warning signs that you may need couples counseling?
If you are in a relationship that is no longer feeling healthy, here are 5 warning signs that it may be time to try couples counseling:
1. There is No Longer Healthy Communication
Once you have a communication breakdown, you are unable to rationally share thoughts, feelings, and concerns with each other. in this situation, the relationship may feel frayed. Unhealthy communication tends to leave one or both partners feeling depressed, angry and hopeless.
2. Trust Has Been Broken
When there has been infidelity, it is very difficult for couples to rebuild trust and repair the damage. While there is no magic pill to recover from an affair, a marriage therapist can offer tools and strategies to rebuild trust.
3. You’re More Like Roommates
If you and your partner act more like roommates than romantic partners, this indicates a lack of intimacy and a potential need for professional help.
4. One or Both of You Has Begun Acting Out
You try to mask your real feelings for as long as possible, but then you start to act out the hurt and resentment you may be feeling. For instance, if your partner has been unfaithful and you have agreed to stay in the relationship and work things out. But over time you find yourself lashing out, acting rude and trying to make them believe you are having an affair so they will feel the same kind of hurt. This acting out is unhealthy for both people and is a BIG indicator you need to seek some help.
5. When the Only “Solution” Seems to be Separation or Divorce
A break from negative energy can be very helpful to the relationship. But when a temporary break leads to more and more time away from home and someone renting their own apartment, this indicates a need for counseling. Spending time away from home usually doesn’t lead to any real resolution, just more distance.
If you find your relationship fitting any of these criteria, Mindfully can help. We have specialist couples counselors who can help you improve your communication and help one another be heard.
Relationships require investing and nurturing. Let us help. Meet face-to-face with our marriage therapists at any of our office locations such as the one listed below, or meet with us via our easy to use teletherapy platform.
Mindfully – Centerville
10861 Yankee St, Dayton, OH 45458
(937) 619-0800
